29 October: The Dark Lady

Good morning,
This morning’s card is the Dark Lady and one of the things that she represents is the close of a cycle.  Six weeks ago I did a vernal equinox reading. And as this first period draws to a close it is time to evaluate how things have gone.

Life happened along the way, especially in the first two weeks: Lucas got sick and required antibiotics for the first time in his life, he also wanted to cling and cuddle. So I did not manage to get as much done work wise as I wanted in that period, but I was still focused on something important and I believe that we got through the situation in a way that fitted for our little family.

I managed to achieve one of my little goals which was the creation of a typography infographic. I have started to get my code onto a repository on Github and I managed to get a WordPress website up and running for a client in less than 48 hours.

What I could do better is have created a more structured list of goals and the tasks that need to be completed in order to get them done.

Of course, the journey is not complete yet, but I think that I can be confident that I am moving in the right direction.

Love and mile markers,

28 October: The Pook (Reversed)

Good morning,

Today’s faery is the Pook standing on his head. The Pook is a shape changer who challenges us to see things the way that they really truly are. It is his job to remind us that there are very few absolutes. He is about all the colours in the spectrum rather than black and white.

Today Mr. Pook is reminding me to be mindful. Mindfulness is about accepting the reality that is, not the reality that we want to be. By engaging with that reality we are able to be positive from a place of truth. The other day on Facebook, Jessica Macbeth, the author of the Faeries Oracle guidebook wrote:

You know, people are always saying “Be positive!” and expecting others to always smile and never complain. That isn’t ‘being positive’ — it’s being false. First, BE REAL. See what is really so — that isn’t easy and it takes a lot of practice. Then once you begin to see what is real, see the best and the worst in it, see if you can’t do something to improve the worst and do something to bring out and empower the best. Now *that* is being positive and it is based on being real. It has power. It changes the world, hopefully for the better.

I am busy reading the book Radical Acceptance where Tara Brach argues that true acceptance requires two things: mindfulness (seeing things the way that they really are) and compassion. And I believe that this is the message that the Pook is reminding me of today…to work with the world as it is, and to be compassionate with everyone.

Love and acceptance,

27 October: Lys of the shadows

Good morning,

Today Lys is reminding me that she is the practical faery of pushing back the shadows through practical action…and the operative word is action. Thoughts are powerful, and while it is true that nothing changes until one’s mindset changes it is also very true that actions speak louder than words.

I am in a blah state at the moment…torn between having a toddler who wants to be independent and is happy to be keeping himself occupied and that same toddler wanting to have my undivided attention and focus. Which makes it difficult to get things done, especially since this heatwave that we are experiencing is draining.

But perhaps the solution is simply to take little steps…do small practical actions. Acknowledge all the fears, insecurities, doubts and distractions and get on with what I need to do to create the life that I want.

Love and small steps,

22 October: The Journeyman

Good morning,

Today’s faery is all about stepping out towards mastery. It involves trusting the knowledge is there and taking steps to do the work. The thing is knowledge and doing that little bit more research is safe, but it is not productive. At some point we need to take the steps to create and that is where I am at the moment. The very scary place of uncertainty of just doing things and trusting the process, learning to detach from the goal.

Love and journeys,

21 October: Losgunna

Good morning,

Today’s faery is Losgunna again, and she is reminding me that while dancing to the tune of my life I must remember to be present. To not be rushing from one moment to the next but actually pausing in the fullness of the moment that exists with the here and the now. That incredibly powerful time that exists where we get to discover who we truly are and shape who we will become once choice at a time, one moment at a time.

Love and moments,

20 October: Spirit Dancer

Good day,

Today’s faery is the Spirit Dancer. She is all about keeping on dancing to the music of life, sometimes the music is happy, sometimes it is sad, sometimes it is defiant, but it is always there and when we keep on dancing to the true song that is playing in our hearts that is when we are on the right track.

Dancing with our whole hearts is one way to fully and completely experience our emotion and experience so that we can detach from it.

Love and dancing,

16 October: Losgunna

Good day,

Today’s faery is Losgunna and she is telling me to be present. I must admit I battle to be present, to focus on one thing at a time, and to an extent I think with a toddler it is impossible and irresponsible to be completely focused on a non-toddler related task. But I can’t help but wonder if the message is that there is treasure to be found in being in the moment.

I re-read Tuesdays with Morrie over the last couple of days, and the messages that are truly resonating with me are all about being present.  In the guidebook Losgunna’s keywords are: Sunken treasure. Discovery of self. Adventure. And while I have been meditating around the card, a quote from the movie Peter Pan surfaced, the one where Peter Pan says:

To live would be an awfully big adventure.

In Tuesdays with Morrie, Morrie keeps telling Mitch Albom that in order to learn how to live you need to know how to die. There is an exchange where Morrie and Mitch talk about culture which goes like this:

Morrie believed in the inherent good of people. But he also saw what they could become.
“People are only mean when they’re threatened”, he said later that day, “and that’s what our culture does. That’s what our economy does. Even people who have jobs in our economy are threatened, because they worry about losing them. And when you get threatened, you start looking out only for yourself. You start making money a god. It’s all part of this culture.”
He exhaled. “Which is why I don’t buy into it.”

“Here’s what I mean by building your own little subculture,” Morrie said. “I don’t mean you disregard every rule of your community. I don’t go around naked, for example. I don’t run through red lights. The little things, I can obey. But the big things — how we think, what we value — those you must choose yourself. You can’t let  anyone — or any society  — determine those for you. …
Mitch goes on to ask Morrie why he did not move to another country when he was younger, “Someplace not as selfish as America”.
“Every society has its own problems,” Morrie said, lifting his eyebrows, the closest thing he could come to a shrug. “The way to do it, I think, isn’t to run away. You have to work at creating your own culture. Look, no matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don’t see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can become. … The problem, Mitch, is that we don’t believe we are as much alike as we are. If we saw each other as more alike, we might be very eager to join in one big human family in this world, and to care about that family the way we care about our own.Invest in the human family. Invest in people. Build a little community of those you love and who love you.”

Going back to the guidebook, Jessica writes about trying new experiences with the willingness of a child. Having a seventeen month old child with me for the majority of the time allows a different understanding of that statement…every experience that Lucas has, he has with his whole self. He has not yet learned to hold back so everything he does, he does with all of him. He is fully present, and he embraces it with curiosity and a willingness to explore, of course, there are frustrations and consequences but it seems that when he experiences the anger or hurt or frustration of an exploration not working out the way he would like, he lets out the emotion…he will have a small temper tantrum and then be done with it.

Where Mitch and Morrie discuss emotions, Morrie talks about learning to detach.

“You know what the Buddhists say? Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent.”
But wait, I said. Aren’t you always talking about  experiencing life? All the good emotions, all the bad ones?
Well, how can you do that if you’re detached?
“Ah. You’re thinking, Mitch. But detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it. … If you hold back on the emotions — if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them — you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. … But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say. ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.”

I think that the message that Losgunna is giving me, is about the adventure that comes from living fully and being present. Of course, there are risks to opening up, but perhaps, the risks of not being open are far bigger.

Love and exploration,


15 October: Lys of the Shadows

Good morning,

Today’s faery is Lys of the Shadows, she is the patron faery of social workers and healing the darkness. Lys is not a fancy-schmancy faery, she is the faery who approaches problems like hunger with a plate of good food before looking at the big things like prevailing economic climate and all off the complex things that you would need to sort out to alleviate the big problems.

While she knows that there is a big picture she is aware of all of the little bits that make up the big picture…and is very aware that no act of compassion or kindness is ever wasted.

Love and kindness,

14 October: He of the Fiery Sword


It’s good to be able to draw a card again… Life got very full for a while,  Lucas had tonsillitis and then I got the flu,  but we are now all hale and hearty again.

This morning’s card is He of the Fiery Sword and he is all about action.  A while ago I learnt that the word decide has a similar root to the word incise,  the person said because that is what a decision is… You cut off other choices and act on what you have decided. 

In the guidebook,  Jesa writes that:

We can call upon the master of the fiery sword when we have difficult things to do,  when we need to take action that is going to require much of us,  both in will and in compassion.

Compassion is difficult,  outrage,  anger,  frustration and hurt are easy, but treating ourselves and others with compassion… Being gentle while holding ourselves to the standard that only our best will do… That requires constant effort,  especially if we are not going to fall into the trap of anger. 

Today he of the Fiery Sword is reminding me that this can and must be done… But I am not alone… After all,  help is always given to those who ask for it.

Love and challenging times,

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